Session for speakers, counsellors and coaches in the love and relationship niche.
#LoveArchitecture: redefinition of the concept of love and relationships.
Session for speakers, counsellors and coaches in the love and relationship niche.
#LoveArchitecture: reConditioning the Love and Relationship niche.
My mentees know me, I’m not the kinda person who publicly gives love and relationship counsels or write about it for that matter.
There are loads of people who have taken up that niche (and yes, a few of them actually know their onions)
But here is my concern, when (many of) those who teach, train or counsel people on love matters have NO IDEA what love really is.
They read a few books, listened to a few people talk on love and …wait for it… Watch a lot of movies that claim to talk about love. And voila! They are love experts!
It is dangerous to teach assumptions on such a sensitive matter as love.
Now, love is NOT a feeling!
So what is love?
Love is 3 things.
1. Love is a person(-ality). (a being)
2. Love is a nature. (system and architecture)
3. Love is a choice. (proactive decision)
…and you must NOT JUST know these three things before you train, mentor, counsel or talk to people about love. YOU MUST BE THESE THREE THINGS!
It’s time we got out of an emotionally filled but loveless life pattern and generation.
To this end,
I’ll be taking Counsellors, Love Experts, Relationship Coaches and Behavioral (emotional) Psychologists/Therapists (in relationship niche) and individuals who are ‘deliberate’ about understanding love and relationship dynamics on the “#LoveArchitecture” session.
Date: Saturday July 29th (7pm) and Thursday August 3rd (8pm) 2017.
Venue: Closed Group
Contact: 08182593790 (WhatsApp) or firstname.lastname@example.org
REGISTRATION CLOSES ON 28th July, 2017 (at sunset)
This session will bring you to learn personally and professionally to;
1. Love yourself. – SPIRIT, SOUL, BODY (Within)
-There is a way to experience and communicate love in your spirit, soul and body AND THEY DON’T ALL USE THE SAME LANGUAGE OR MEDIUM.
2. Respond in love. – RELATIONSHIP with other people (Without)
3. Accept life and living. – HELPS OVERCOME DEPRESSION, FRUSTRATION AND MISINTERPRETING LIFE (Beyond)
-Understanding situations and occurrences to condition them through the love prism.
Registration for this program is FREE, but additional audio resources that will be available for the program will be ordered upon request for a price. (it is NOT COMPULSORY)
Take out from the sessions
1. Tasks on #LoveArchitecture concept cognition .
2. The architecture and need for (personal) love affirmations.
…and so much more.
Before you say “I do!”: #iMentor with Harkheindzel Kenny Omiyale.
There’s so much happening to marriages today. its
a serious issue especially for those about to
for the past weeks I’ve seen couples talking about
the heat they experience in marriage via internal
and external forces. /2
many people just have no clue about marriage, all
they do is plan for the wedding. /3
I’ll advice everyone to plan beyond weddings.
weddings will be your happiest day if you don’t
work out for marriage. /4
normally, according to the books, marriage ought
to be merrier than weddings. but you need plans to
see this through. /5
so many married peeps are regretting their
choices. they wish they had said “I don’t!” at the
For the love of God! get a grip of your life before
going for marriage. understand who you’re getting
married to! /7
know how to deal with your spouse’s temperament!
if you don’t, you will endure your marriage while it
Beauty fades, six packs get walled up by pot belly.
don’t base your affections on temporal things. they
never last. /9
look for character, seek a spouse who displays
godly wisdom. the unseen things are the things
that last. it’s biblically proven. /10
Relationships are good! please it shouldn’t be all
about sex. there’s so much more to consider than the ecstasy of some instantaneous libido or orgasm. /11
You can’t eat your cake and have it. don’t look for
someone who’s perfect. that person only exist in
look for someone that will make you happy,someone that will engage you positively, someone that lives with purpose and fear of God! /13
be ready to commit. you can’t have 100% but you
have to give your 100% . that’s how to make
marriage work. /14
you’ve got to give it what it takes if you want to
nurture lasting bliss in your marriage. /15
I’ll leave you with these few rules and nuggets to
ruminate on. I want the best life for you, but you
have to choose it yourself. /16
let’s talk better. mail me at
Harkheindzelkenny@gmail.com or bbm:
your development and empowerment
you can make your life all you’ve dreamed but you
have to choose it and work by its principles.
Marriage isn’t as simple as you may think. If you are in doubt then ask a married couple and ask for the plain and sincere truth.
*Except otherwise stated, all writings are the inspirational product of the author.*
RELATIONSHIP, DATING AND MARRIAGE: #iMentor with Harkheindzel Kenny O.
(instruction: to get the logos Sophia in this write up… You read it all the way down… Then you read it all the way up.)
#relationship #dating and #marriage.
I pray for a great future for you (Marital-wise) .
Don’t miss tomorrow. We discuss how to deal with
d heat of #relationship #dating & #marriage
you just can’t scale through without God!
#relationship #dating #marriage . #iMentor
So before you set out. Take along courage,
faith, vision, purpose and character! #marriage
has some unexpected guests.
#marriage planning isn’t left only to the man. It’s
a man cum wife enterprise. #iMentor
Take time out to think of your plans in
#marriage . What happens after 1yr,2yrs,5yrs
and 10yrs. You should have a plan. #iMentor
It is my joy to see everyone happy from
#relationship to #dating and in #marriage . God
wants that too. #iMentor
Am giving you #marriage wisdom here. Don’t
joke with it. Planlessness is purposelessness.
You can’t plan it alone. So commit ur
#marriage into d hands of the ANCIENT OF
DAYS, THE AUTHOR N FINISHER. #iMentor
This is called #relationship responsibility,
#dating directives and #marriage management.
Don’t leave things to chance. #iMentor
Before #marriage , you need to sit with your spouse
And prayerfully strategize and plan your years
together. HAVE A PLAN! #iMentor
Regrets happen when pple fail to adequately plan
out their #marriage . It takes two to tangle.
There are many people who deep down regret the
life they live in #marriage . This shouldn’t be!
One thing is going into #marriage clueless. The
worse part is the purposelessness induced into
The unborn children. #iMentor
If you go into #marriage without vision and
purpose, then you are a fool! I say it again, a
Many people plan for wedding and not #marriage .
That’s why issues begin to arise a week after d
And Please lemme add here! #marriage is not the
same as Wedding! The latter happens in a day,
the former happens for life. #iMentor
#marriage is not something to be rushed into.
It’s just like food… If u rush it… You get
If you don’t progress well from #relationship
to #dating, issues could arise in your
#marriage . It’s a fact. #iMentor
#marriage is a holy covenant of togetherness
btw two pple. (MALE AND FEMALE!). A journey
together into forever. #iMentor
With all said and done… The product of an
effective dating system opens d door for
#marriage . #iMentor
#dating is not profane. It should be a holy,
reasonable and respectable practice of getting
to know each other. #iMentor
It’s time to come back to our senses n know the
purity of #dating and #relationship . We
shouldn’t take it too far. #iMentor
#dating is not an orgasm reaching, fast paced
libido evolving action. No! It’s a study of
purpose complementation. #iMentor
You watch high school movie and all you think of
#dating is eroticism n beastly contrivances. No!
And need I add. Westernization has crippled the
mind of youths on what #dating really is.
That said. You know you must be focused in class
if you wanna do well in the exam. #dating .
Many pple miss the whole point of #dating . It’s
like attending lectures with exam in view.
#dating is a sample of a proposed future. It’s a
time to see who rules… Feelings or reality!
#dating is a step further to see how well you
really know the other person. It’s more than a
Caution! I am not talking about lust or
gratification of d flesh. I mean the
amalgamation of purposeful people. #dating .
when a boy meets a girl, and entropy as a
result of chemistry occurs… #relationship
opens d door to #dating. #iMentor
Every #relationship has its boundaries. You need
to master this to keep them. Break the bounds and you
lose it instantly. #iMentor
Being overly reserved sucks life out of you and
keeps your heart obstinate. #relationship .
This world was wired to accommodate
#relationship , you break the natural laws if you act
otherwise. From Phlegmatic to sanguine.
Building lasting #relationship helps make life
easier and worthwhile. You can’t survive as a lone
#relationship varies from family to friends to
colleagues to acquaintances to mates… Every
level of life requires it. #iMentor
You don’t start a #relationship to mandate your
opinions. Nay! It’s a desk full of compromise.
Love and understanding is needed! #iMentor
Many people are not well educated in
#relationship management before plunging into
The way you view yourself in a #relationship
matters alot. Your true motive eventually oozes
That made clear. #relationship
starts with one but isn’t complete with one! A
second party is needed. #iMentor
#marriage is the ultimate binder. It seals you
with the other person (at least that’s the
original idea) as long as u live. #iMentor
#dating occurs when 2pple feel they can work
something out together… Short time or long
term as the case may be. #iMentor
#relationship starts first from within… You get
to see yourself, know yourself and like yourself
or improve on yourself as the case may be
#relationship #dating and #marriage and
(hopefully) everything in between. #iMentor
* * * * * * * * * * * *
I believe this has helped you in the little way possible. Would appreciate feedback from those it has reached and helped.
A son with a message,
Harkheindzel Kenny O.
Final #iMentor session for the week:
How to deal with the heat of #relationship
#dating and #marriage
This isn’t a small
matter. I will try to give the little I am permitted to give. #iMentor
A perfect #relationship #dating and #marriage
is one that has God as it’s centre. Hand it over
to God and behold the magic. #iMentor
I pray for you today that the Lord will make
your #relationship #dating and #marriage
experiences the best! #iMentor
Be creative, compassionate, dynamic and
understanding. #marriage works best with such
#marriage involves the whole of your being.
Spirit, soul and body. All sections must be
healthy. (I mean spirit, soul n body) #iMentor
Prayer can change
almost anything. From
#relationship to #dating and in #marriage . This
is your only
From time to time, take out time to pray for
your #marriage as a family. Do it together.
Holding hands in agreement. #iMentor
Put the whole of your heart into your
#marriage . Protect it with your life. #iMentor
Seek #marriage advice from those who have
been married for a while… 15yrs down the line
(at least.) #iMentor
#marriage eventually becomes the revealer of
true intent. Did you choose outer beauty over inner
When an environ is too static, Heat begins to
build up. #marriage is no exception. #iMentor
Exposure is necessary from time to time. It
brings a new air to your #marriage . Falling in
love all over again. #iMentor
#marriage is a beautiful experience created by
God. And he wants pple to enjoy it.. Forever!
When in #marriage and it seems it’s not working,
what do you do? #iMentor
1. Every external advice shouldn’t be treated as
an instruction. It’s a counsel you need to be
berean about. #marriage . #iMentor
2. Every person has a yield point. Use this and
bring up as occasion demands. (not for manipulative purpose!)
for correction and concord. #marriage . #iMentor
3. Never stay angry! The last time I checked,
Anger isn’t a fruit of the spirit. #marriage .
4. Never threaten your spouse with divorce.
Never bring it up! For no reason. #marriage .
5. After multiple trials and it seems not to work.
Pray harder before bringing a third party.
#marriage . #iMentor
6. Call your spouse, sit down and talk. Waking your
spouse to talk late at night has always worked
for the ladies. #marriage . #iMentor
7. Don’t assume! Find out what the problem is
and seek a lasting solution. #marriage .
Don’t bank on #dating a person that will ruin
your destiny! Don’t let go of purpose n vision.
#dating: if all has been done and no positive
outcome. Then it’s better to let go. Letting go at
such stage is not a sin. #iMentor
However, there is no problem that doesn’t have a solution. The
issue is, are you willing to give all it takes to get a
solution? #dating . #iMentor
Don’t see your partner as a problem. The problem
is not a person,it’s an attitude. #dating.
Be sensitive to the feelings and limitations of
your partner. No one is perfect. Don’t believe
the fairytales. #iMentor
Be accountable to a spiritual authority even when
#dating . Such has been proven to work out
better and make things easier. #iMentor
Don’t go into #dating without a spiritual
covering! Let it be known to a leader in your church.
A Godless #dating is a worthless #dating . Let
God be your manager and counsellor. #iMentor
#dating becomes fun and lively when both parties
have a great personal fellowship with God.
Things just flow well. #iMentor
When God is always present in your #dating
experience, you have less issues to worry about. #iMentor
You don’t need to have #dating issues before
consulting God. Make him the Alpha
and Omega, even from
the start. #iMentor
Experience is not the best teacher in #dating .
God is! So prayerfully consult him every step of
the way. #iMentor
Discuss with the other person and reach an
agreement. Don’t give in to manipulation. Be as
honest as possible. #iMentor
Facing issues in #dating involves patience. No
assumptions! Always deal with facts. #iMentor
#dating is a relationship that has wings. Friends
and friends of friends are also involved.
#dating test your skills in creativity and
Responsibility to impromptu events. Ideal test
of life. #iMentor
What is the common ground? (there is always
one in every #relationship). Build on this and you will have less problems in
#dating . #iMentor
Note that you are not the same. You may not
like or fancy the same things. But try to make
things work… #iMentor
Understanding and communication helps you
adjust to each others values when #dating .
#dating is not an end in itself. It’s a means to
an end, So adjustments are inevitable. #iMentor
Compromises are tolerable in #dating but don’t
do it at the expense of your vision! #iMentor
#dating requires understanding and a good
judgement of character. Since another person is
Never go into #dating when you already have a
break up in mind. It’s not healthy. #iMentor
#relationship can be restructured. #dating can
be stopped, but #marriage isn’t as easy as just
letting go. #iMentor
There is always a way out, a way to make things better. It’s not farfetched. You just need to follow the guidelines and principles.
With these I hope you can make use of these logos Sophia and give your life a sweeter meaning.
I wish you a great life,
a wonderful relationship,
a memorable dating
and a blissful marriage.
Harkheindzel Kenny O.
(a son with a message)
this is part of my manuscript on the book i am writing, i just want you to have a piece of a paragraph or two….
GOD HAS CALLED US ALL INTO A VERY CLOSE AND CORDIAL RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM AND IN HIM. IT IS IN THIS RELATIONSHIP THAT WE GET TO KNOW WHAT THE PLANS AND THE PURPOSE OF GOD IS FOR US. HOWEVER, FOR NOW, I WANT TO TALK ABUT THE ASPECT OF RELATIONSHIP AND THE PLACE OF THE VOICE OF GOD IN RELATIONSHIPS. I HAVE COUNSELLED A LOT OF PEOPLE ON RELATIONSHIP MATTERS, SOME WILL EVEN SAY…
BUT I HEARD THE VOICE OF GOD,,,,
BUT I SAW A VISION OF THIS.
THIS IS THE MISTAKE SOME PEOPLE MAKE, WHEN THEY HEAR THE VOICE OF GOD ESPECIALLY CONCERNING A RELATIONSHIP, PEOPLE JUST STOP ALL OTHER FORMS OF COMMUNICATION AND ADVANCE INTO IT AS THOUGH EVERYTHING IS SETTLED. WELL, ACTUALLY, THINGS ARE SETTLED BUT YOU HAVE TO UNDERDSTAND HOW TO GO ABOUT IT. THERE ARE SOME EXAMPLE AM GOING TO GIVE TO SOMETHING I SAID DURING A TALK IN 2012 ABOUT “MEN AND RELATIONSHIPS” .
IF YOU CLAIM TO GET A REVELATION FROM GOD ON A PERSON YOU ARE TO MARRY AND YOU EVENTUALLY FINDOUT THAT THAT PERSON IS ALREADY IN A RELATIONSHIP? WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO?
. OR WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN THE PERSON YOU CHOOSE IS STILL LIVING IN THE WORLD?
WELL THIS IS THE ANSWER THAT I GAVE TO THAT QUESTION, SINCE IT IS AGAINST THE WORDS OF THE BIBLE TO BE ONE WITH AN UNBELIEVER,
WHAT YOU NEED TO DO IS TO MAKE EFFORTS TO MAKE SURE THAT THE PERSON STARTS HAVING A CHANGED LIFE AND WHEN YOU HAVE HELPED THE PERSON TO FULLY UNDERSTAND GOD, THAN YOU CAN NOW PROPOSE TO THE PERSON. AND ON THE PERSON WHO SHOULD BE YOURS BUT IS IN ANOTHER RELASTIONSHIP, WELL, WHAT YOU NEED IS MORE REVELATION AND PRAYERS. DON’T PRAY FOR THE RELATIONSHIP TO BLOW OUT, ASK FOR THE WILL OF GOD TO BE KNOWN CONCERNING THE MATTER. THEN WORK ON THE SUBSEQUENT REVELATION THAT THE LORD GIVES YOU.
NOW, BACK TO WHAT I WANTED TO DISCUSS ON THIS MATTER, WHEN THE LORD SHOWS YOU WHO YOU ARE TO EVENTUALLY GET MARRIED TO OR IN BETTER WAYS OF PUTTING IT,… WHO IS GOING TO BE YOUR PARTNER,
WISDOM AND UNDERSTANDING IS NEEDED IN THIS. FOR THIS, YOU NEED THE UNDERSTANDING IN TIMES,
THERE IS A TIME TO ACT,
THERE IS A TIME TO PRAY,
THERE IS A TIME TO STUDY,
THERE IS A TIME TO INTERCEDE ,
THERE IS A TIME TO GO ALL OUT,
THERE IS A TIME TO GET CLOSE AND TO KNOW THE PERSON,
AND THERE IS A TIME TO PROPOSE.
BUT BEFORE ALL THESE THINGS, IT SHOULD NOT BE DONE ON THE CANAL LEVEL, WE HAVE TO BE LED BY THE SPIRIT OF THE LORD IN THIS. BECAUSE EVERYONE DOES NOT HAVE TO DO THINGS THE SAME WAY.