Getting relationships right


​#iMentor 
Getting relationships right.  

The word relationship has been abused and underused in our age and time.  Relationship is a general cluster of network, connection and interest from man to man.  So siblings, family, colleagues, allies, mentee, coaches, etc and all casual and professional relationships.  
Relationship these days has been majorly focused on dating and marriage as many have risen calling themselves relationship mentors and coaches and have held specific torches on dating and marriage issues.  
Now I’m not saying that is wrong, but with time it is bound to cause an angular shift from the truth of the nature and foundation of relationships as people believe that’s all relationship. Is about (dating, marriage and sex or emotional issues ) 

I’m praying for that day that men and women will stand in balanced knowledge and verity as addressing relationship issues.  
Friendship is a very powerful thing in relationship, but like the education of this world has advanced (thanks to many relationship coaches) , almost everyone is working to leave the “friendzone” which has been termed a state of ‘dulling’ 
The friend zone by verity is a zone that is strategic and potent but had been disdained because everyone is looking for emotional benefits.  
Personally, I don’t have many friends.  If I’ve never called you to discuss strategic condiments and policies, or ran together in intercession or sit to discuss eschatological trends then you are not my friend. 
Isn’t it time to go back to the truth of friendship as ordained from the beginning and not give room to perversions of this age? 
Think again.  
Harkheindzel Kenny Omiyale

Development & Empowerment Strategist.

@Harkheindzel

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לשמוע את המפקד של המארח של יהוה

Getting relationships right.  


#iMentor 
Getting relationships right.  

The word relationship has been abused and underused in our age and time. Relationship is a general cluster of network, connection and interest from man to man. So siblings, family, colleagues, allies, mentee, coaches, etc and all casual and professional relationships.  
Relationship these days has been majorly focused on dating and marriage as many have risen calling themselves relationship mentors and coaches and have held specific torches on dating and marriage issues.  
Now I’m not saying that is wrong, but with time it is bound to cause an angular shift from the truth of the nature and foundation of relationships as people believe that’s all relationship. Is about (dating, marriage and sex or emotional issues ) 

I’m praying for that day that men and women will stand in balanced knowledge and verity as addressing relationship issues.  
Friendship is a very powerful thing in relationship, but like the education of this world has advanced (thanks to many relationship coaches) , almost everyone is working to leave the “friendzone” which has been termed a state of ‘dulling’ 
The friend zone by verity is a zone that is strategic and potent but had been disdained because everyone is looking for emotional benefits.  
Personally, I don’t have many friends. If I’ve never called you to discuss strategic condiments and policies, or ran together in intercession or sit to discuss eschatological trends then you are not my friend. 
Isn’t it time to go back to the truth of friendship as ordained from the beginning and not give room to perversions of this age? 
Think again.  
Harkheindzel Kenny Omiyale

Development & Empowerment Strategist.

@Harkheindzel

Join the #GiHOS community today: http://on.fb.me/1LieE0y
לשמוע את המפקד של המארח של יהוה

Before you say “I do!”: #iMentor with Harkheindzel Kenny Omiyale.


Before you say “I do!”: #iMentor with Harkheindzel Kenny Omiyale.

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There’s so much happening to marriages today. its
a serious issue especially for those about to
wed. /1

for the past weeks I’ve seen couples talking about
the heat they experience in marriage via internal
and external forces. /2

many people just have no clue about marriage, all
they do is plan for the wedding. /3

I’ll advice everyone to plan beyond weddings.
weddings will be your happiest day if you don’t
work out for marriage. /4

normally, according to the books, marriage ought
to be merrier than weddings. but you need plans to
see this through. /5

so many married peeps are regretting their
choices. they wish they had said “I don’t!” at the
altar. /6

For the love of God! get a grip of your life before
going for marriage. understand who you’re getting
married to! /7

know how to deal with your spouse’s temperament!
if you don’t, you will endure your marriage while it
lasts. /8

Beauty fades, six packs get walled up by pot belly.
don’t base your affections on temporal things. they
never last. /9

look for character, seek a spouse who displays
godly wisdom. the unseen things are the things
that last. it’s biblically proven. /10

Relationships are good! please it shouldn’t be all
about sex. there’s so much more to consider than the ecstasy of some instantaneous libido or orgasm. /11

You can’t eat your cake and have it. don’t look for
someone who’s perfect. that person only exist in
movies. /12

look for someone that will make you happy,someone that will engage you positively, someone that lives with purpose and fear of God! /13

be ready to commit. you can’t have 100% but you
have to give your 100% . that’s how to make
marriage work. /14

you’ve got to give it what it takes if you want to
nurture lasting bliss in your marriage. /15

I’ll leave you with these few rules and nuggets to
ruminate on. I want the best life for you, but you
have to choose it yourself. /16

let’s talk better. mail me at
Harkheindzelkenny@gmail.com or bbm:
795B8887.
your development and empowerment
strategist,

you can make your life all you’ve dreamed but you
have to choose it and work by its principles.

Marriage isn’t as simple as you may think. If you are in doubt then ask a married couple and ask for the plain and sincere truth.

*Except otherwise stated, all writings are the inspirational product of the author.*

Why you are not forgiven.


Why you are not forgiven: #iMentor with Harkheindzel Kenny Omiyale.

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I see many people come to me to confess their sins or confide in me when they talk about the areas that are coming short of purpose. I have come to see something similar in many of the situations.

Sure they get emotional and all, but their feeling is so shallow and momentary.

Many people ‘feel sorry’ without ‘being sorry’. There is a difference in this. Feeling sorry is a feeling we express when we realise the consequences of our actions. With this we tend to hasten the harshness of the effect by pleading for mercy. This is a fallen technique with can’t move a stone talk less of moving God. Some may see this as being manipulative but it’s not going to lead anywhere.

Feeling sorry is not good enough. You have to BE SORRY! And the only thing that proves you are sorry would be your nest step or action.

If after a few days, weeks or months you still find yourself falling and failing to keep with your promise or resolution then you were not sorry, or maybe at a point along the way you changed your mind and went back into what you claimed to be sorry for.

The path to forgiveness is not a solo mission. It’s a mutual responsibility.

Jesus shared this fact when he taught his disciples how to pray.

“…Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.”

This is clear and plain. If you want to be forgiven, then you must learn to forgive those who wrong you.

This was a new thing to adapt to because during the time of Jesus, the means of forgiveness was the slaughtering of an animal. But Jesus taught his disciples the higher law! If you want to be forgiven, then you must be free from grudge or wrong.

You cannot be forgiven if you choose not to forgive those who offend you.

This generation is so accustomed to sin and yet they begin for mercy! Mercy can come only when you let go of the wrong you are doing.
The intention to let go is not enough, you need to let go and be free. That’s how to stay forgiven.

If you have questions or stories to tell me you can talk to me via email at Harkheindzelkenny@gmail.com.

I can’t wait to hear from you.
Have a great, and free life. A life free of grudge and dis-ease.

Your #iMentor,
Harkheindzel Kenny Omiyale.

#iMentor with Harkheindzel Kenny O. #nowThatYouAreSaved


My #iMentor session for today.
Morning session

#nowThatYouAreSaved what next?

#NwdtURSaved

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Salvation is the best gift we can get. But that is not the end. There are ethics of life we must be acquainted with.

Today I will share some lost gems of christian living. Let’s know how to do things right.
Being a Christian is not an excuse to remain silly and mediocre. There is more to life than staying an enslaved believer.

I trust you to be berean with this wisdom.

Here it goes…
1. Have you become worse than you were before your salvation. #NwdtURSaved

2. Salvation means you will make heaven, but don’t ruin the earth in the process. #NwdtURSaved

3. Because you have God doesn’t make you a lazy king who treats God as a servant. #NwdtURSaved

4. It is a call to be serious and responsible. This is where pple miss it. #NwdtURSaved

5. We are to continue from where Adam stopped. It’s not a cruise ride. It’s work! #NwdtURSaved

6. That’s why we now have an easy yoke.. Jesus didn’t promise us no yoke, He only gave us an easy yoke, a light burden. #NwdtURSaved

7. His yoke has become grace, that’s what makes things easy for us. #NwdtURSaved

8. You need to learn what I call Kingdom ethics. Princes learn the ways of the king #NwdtURSaved

9. Princesses learn the ways of d queen, so let’s learn the ways of God. #NwdtURSaved

10. Leave no chance to docile canal equilibrium. #NwdtURSaved

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11. A fallow mind is a dangerous enemy. Avoid it at all cost! #NwdtURSaved

12. The spirit, mind n body need to be managed properly. #NwdtURSaved

13. Its partition tells us that we must mind all and manage em well. #NwdtURSaved

14. There is no such thing as a perfect 1/3. It’s only 3/3 that is perfect whole. #NwdtURSaved

15. This is why we must take charge of all three compartments. Spirit, soul n body. #NwdtURSaved

16. The Godhead is our model to attain this unity. #NwdtURSaved

17. We are to make use of the earth resources with the Kingdom in mind. #NwdtURSaved

18. Don’t leave it to unbelievers who lack the Kingdom mindset. #NwdtURSaved

19. Politically, socially, educationally, materially, and everything -cally. It’s ours to build. #NwdtURSaved

20. Stop being Phlegmatic, be Proactive. Dominate! Conquer! Go for it. #NwdtURSaved

21. Christianity is not just a religion. It’s an identity. So it should influence our actions. #NwdtURSaved

22. Religion shouldn’t break us down to retards and societal imbeciles. #NwdtURSaved

23. It should cause us to rise and do things better and more excellently, #NwdtURSaved

24. Let pple see your good works! Then they will glorify your father in heaven. #NwdtURSaved

25. This is Christianity! Supernatural feats. Doing things with another level of wisdom. #NwdtURSaved

26. Look at Daniel, Joseph, Paul, Jesus, they were proactive. They diint rely on religion, Grace launched them #NwdtURSaved

27. Don’t wait for a perfect time, do wot you have to do well, then grace will perfect it. #NwdtURSaved

28. Be enlightened, be wise, be vibrant, be relevant, but in all… Be Godly with an implacable standards! #NwdtURSaved

29. This is the course we must follow, break free from inhibiting traditions and norms. #NwdtURSaved

30. He who the Son sets free is free indeed! So why are you cuffing yourself in traditions? #NwdtURSaved

31. Stop that nonsense! You are free! Learn to stay free. #NwdtURSaved

32. Your edge is your new creation, fellowship, communion and obedience to God’s word. #NwdtURSaved

33. Christianity is not as hard as pple make it. Christ has made it so easy! #NwdtURSaved

34. What many lack is understanding. Lack of vision leads to destruction. #NwdtURSaved

35. Stay updated and upgraded always. Spiritual things aren’t static. #NwdtURSaved

36. A New day means a new upgrade is available. Sync up and connect daily. Always download! #NwdtURSaved

37. Pray without ceasing = download without ceasing. #NwdtURSaved

38. Always be filled! Full of the spirit meaning you have the most current upgrade version. #NwdtURSaved

39. This is what we must practise. Too many pple read d Bible with an old mind. #NwdtURSaved

40. That’s why we find it hard to apply the word in our daily deeds. #NwdtURSaved

41. Stop reading the bible upside down. Read it inside out! It’s a speaking word. #NwdtURSaved

42. The Bible is not a storybook. It’s a book of life. If you wanna live, then you have to read it! Always. #NwdtURSaved

43. There is so much to say… It can’t be done in a day. It’s a process. #NwdtURSaved

44. Today’s session is a seed. Let’s see how your heart will grow it. #NwdtURSaved

45. Grow in the word. It’s an experience like none other. The living word! #NwdtURSaved

46. Only the word can help you to live in the world. Without the word, everything will go wrong. #NwdtURSaved

47. This is where the cookie crumbles today. I hope ur heart treats these seeds well. #NwdtURSaved

I remain your #iMentor, Harkheindzel Kenny O.

The seed of unforgiveness


The seed of unforgiveness

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Forgive:
verb (forgives, forgiving; past forgave, past participle forgiven) 1. (transitive) To pardon, to waive any negative feeling or desire for punishment.

Only the brave know how to forgive…A coward never forgave; it is not in his nature. -Laurence Sterne

2. (intransitive) To accord forgiveness.

The real thing about forgiveness is that it is a dust out and burn operation.
There is no such thing as “forgive and forget” . The latter is a subset of the former.

Let’s say the truth. The whole idea of forgiving is pardoning. And what it means is that you take it as though it never happened. Give a clean slate, a fresh start, another chance. So let us stop the mundane mind of forgiving but not forgetting.

If you want to forgive, forgive and go on with your life. Stop fooling yourself by being religious. Am going to be quick with this post but I don’t want you to lose the crux and theme of this post. Let’s put aside our smeared idiosyncrasies and look at this with a fresh eye. Forget all you have learnt, all you think you know. It’s time to unlearn and relearn. This is what this generation needs. The generation of our parents have sown some evil seeds in us while growing. Some silly mindset that have crippled our mind to this level. But it is time to breakforth and breakthrough thereby breaking out for good. But we will do it one step at a time, one word at a time, one idea at a time. We cannot rush things at this stage. The quicker you try to loose the old knots, the worse you make it. So we gonna take it slow and easy.

Forgiveness is the topic for the day. We need to look at this again and see how well we have gone. I hear people who are proud of keeping malice for years… What’s the meaning of that? That’s so filthy! It’s just like keeping raw meet in your mouth for years and you are proud of it. It’s gonna kill you if you don’t throw it out.

Unforgiveness is a seed that needs to be destroyed. But it can grow so fast and take root if not well handled.

Just like the magic beans that grows instantly when it feels water, that’s how fast the seed of unforgiveness can take root in our heart.

Many years ago, a lady came to me for a deliverance session, after questioning her to find the root of her oppression, I realized it was “unforgiveness”. I led her to let go of all her hurt and pain (this took a while because it is not to be rushed), eventually, she was free. She didn’t need some authoritative prayers, all she needed to be free was forgiveness.

Unforgiveness is like taking a poison and expecting the other person to die. We all know that aiint gonna happen.

Learn to walk in love, it may not be easy initially, but in time you will see the worth of it. Besides a life lived in love is one that is so close to God… For God is love. (you all know am not talking about nothing but the agape love… Just so we are clear)

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Quotes About Forgiveness

“ Always forgive your enemies;
nothing annoys them so much.
Oscar Wilde

“ The Paradoxical Commandments

People are illogical, unreasonable,
and self-centered.
Love them anyway.
If you do good, people will accuse
you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.
If you are successful, you will win
false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.
The good you do today will be
forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.
Honesty and frankness make you
vulnerable.
Be honest and frank anyway.
The biggest men and women with
the biggest ideas can be shot down
by the smallest men and women
with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.
People favor underdogs but follow
only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.
What you spend years building may
be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.
People really need help but may
attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.
Give the world the best you have
and you’ll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have
anyway.
Kent M. Keith

“ The weak can never forgive.
Forgiveness is the attribute of the
strong.
Mahatma Gandhi

“ To be a Christian means to forgive
the inexcusable because God has
forgiven the inexcusable in you.
C.S. Lewis

“ Dumbledore says people find it far
easier to forgive others for being
wrong than being right.
J.K. Rowling

“ Any fool knows men and women
think differently at times, but the
biggest difference is this. Men
forget, but never forgive; women
forgive, but never forget.
Robert Jordan

“ The truth is, unless you let go, unless
you forgive yourself, unless you
forgive the situation, unless you
realize that the situation is over,
you cannot move forward.
Steve Maraboli

“ To err is human, to forgive, divine.
Alexander Pope

“One of the keys to happiness is a bad
memory.
Rita Mae Brown

“ I could easily forgive his pride, if he
had not mortified mine.
Jane Austen

“ Forgiveness is not about forgetting.
It is about letting go of another
person’s throat……Forgiveness does
not create a relationship. Unless
people speak the truth about what
they have done and change their
mind and behavior, a relationship
of trust is not possible. When you
forgive someone you certainly
release them from judgment, but
without true change, no real
relationship can be
established………Forgiveness in no
way requires that you trust the one
you forgive. But should they finally
confess and repent, you will
discover a miracle in your own
heart that allows you to reach out
and begin to build between you a
bridge of
reconciliation………Forgiveness
does not excuse anything………You
may have to declare your
forgiveness a hundred times the
first day and the second day, but the
third day will be less and each day
after, until one day you will realize
that you have forgiven completely.
And then one day you will pray for
his wholeness……
Wm. Paul Young

“ Forgiveness is the fragrance that the
violet sheds on the heel that has
crushed it.
Mark Twain

“ We are all mistaken sometimes;
sometimes we do wrong things,
things that have bad consequences.
But it does not mean we are evil, or
that we cannot be trusted ever
afterward.
Alison Croggon

“ Forgive your enemies, but never
forget their names.
John F. Kennedy

“ People have to forgive. We don’t
have to like them, we don’t have to
be friends with them, we don’t have
to send them hearts in text messages,
but we have to forgive them, to
overlook, to forget. Because if we
don’t we are tying rocks to our feet,
too much for our wings to carry!
C. JoyBell C.

Have a great life. I pray this prayer for you from the depth of my heart.

A son with a message,
Harkheindzel Kenny O.

RELATIONSHIP, DATING AND MARRIAGE: #iMentor with Harkheindzel Kenny O.


RELATIONSHIP, DATING AND MARRIAGE: #iMentor with Harkheindzel Kenny O.

(instruction: to get the logos Sophia in this write up… You read it all the way down… Then you read it all the way up.)

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#relationship #dating and #marriage.

I pray for a great future for you (Marital-wise) .
Don’t miss tomorrow. We discuss how to deal with
d heat of #relationship #dating & #marriage

you just can’t scale through without God!
#relationship #dating #marriage . #iMentor

So before you set out. Take along courage,
faith, vision, purpose and character! #marriage
has some unexpected guests.

#marriage planning isn’t left only to the man. It’s
a man cum wife enterprise. #iMentor

Take time out to think of your plans in
#marriage . What happens after 1yr,2yrs,5yrs
and 10yrs. You should have a plan. #iMentor

It is my joy to see everyone happy from
#relationship to #dating and in #marriage . God
wants that too. #iMentor

Am giving you #marriage wisdom here. Don’t
joke with it. Planlessness is purposelessness.
#iMentor

You can’t plan it alone. So commit ur
#marriage into d hands of the ANCIENT OF
DAYS, THE AUTHOR N FINISHER. #iMentor

This is called #relationship responsibility,
#dating directives and #marriage management.
Don’t leave things to chance. #iMentor

Before #marriage , you need to sit with your spouse
And prayerfully strategize and plan your years
together. HAVE A PLAN! #iMentor

Regrets happen when pple fail to adequately plan
out their #marriage . It takes two to tangle.
#iMentor

There are many people who deep down regret the
life they live in #marriage . This shouldn’t be!
#iMentor

One thing is going into #marriage clueless. The
worse part is the purposelessness induced into
The unborn children. #iMentor

If you go into #marriage without vision and
purpose, then you are a fool! I say it again, a
FOOL! #iMentor

Many people plan for wedding and not #marriage .
That’s why issues begin to arise a week after d
wedding. #iMentor

And Please lemme add here! #marriage is not the
same as Wedding! The latter happens in a day,
the former happens for life. #iMentor

#marriage is not something to be rushed into.
It’s just like food… If u rush it… You get
choked! #iMentor

If you don’t progress well from #relationship
to #dating, issues could arise in your
#marriage . It’s a fact. #iMentor

#marriage is a holy covenant of togetherness
btw two pple. (MALE AND FEMALE!). A journey
together into forever. #iMentor

With all said and done… The product of an
effective dating system opens d door for
#marriage . #iMentor

#dating is not profane. It should be a holy,
reasonable and respectable practice of getting
to know each other. #iMentor

It’s time to come back to our senses n know the
purity of #dating and #relationship . We
shouldn’t take it too far. #iMentor

#dating is not an orgasm reaching, fast paced
libido evolving action. No! It’s a study of
purpose complementation. #iMentor

You watch high school movie and all you think of
#dating is eroticism n beastly contrivances. No!
#iMentor

And need I add. Westernization has crippled the
mind of youths on what #dating really is.
#iMentor

That said. You know you must be focused in class
if you wanna do well in the exam. #dating .
#iMentor

Many pple miss the whole point of #dating . It’s
like attending lectures with exam in view.
#iMentor

#dating is a sample of a proposed future. It’s a
time to see who rules… Feelings or reality!
#iMentor

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#dating is a step further to see how well you
really know the other person. It’s more than a
trial. #iMentor

Caution! I am not talking about lust or
gratification of d flesh. I mean the
amalgamation of purposeful people. #dating .
#iMentor

when a boy meets a girl, and entropy as a
result of chemistry occurs… #relationship
opens d door to #dating. #iMentor

Every #relationship has its boundaries. You need
to master this to keep them. Break the bounds and you
lose it instantly. #iMentor

Being overly reserved sucks life out of you and
keeps your heart obstinate. #relationship .
#iMentor

This world was wired to accommodate
#relationship , you break the natural laws if you act
otherwise. From Phlegmatic to sanguine.
#iMentor

Building lasting #relationship helps make life
easier and worthwhile. You can’t survive as a lone
ranger. #iMentor

#relationship varies from family to friends to
colleagues to acquaintances to mates… Every
level of life requires it. #iMentor

You don’t start a #relationship to mandate your
opinions. Nay! It’s a desk full of compromise.
Love and understanding is  needed! #iMentor

Many people are not well educated in
#relationship management before plunging into
it. #iMentor

The way you view yourself in a #relationship
matters alot. Your true motive eventually oozes
out. #iMentor

That made clear. #relationship
starts with one but isn’t complete with one! A
second party is needed. #iMentor

#marriage is the ultimate binder. It seals you
with the other person (at least that’s the
original idea) as long as u live. #iMentor

#dating occurs when 2pple feel they can work
something out together… Short time or long
term as the case may be. #iMentor

#relationship starts first from within… You get
to see yourself, know yourself and like yourself
or improve on yourself as the case may be

#relationship #dating and #marriage and
(hopefully) everything in between. #iMentor

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I believe this has helped you in the little way possible. Would appreciate feedback from those it has reached and helped.

A son with a message,
Harkheindzel Kenny O.