(Image from Olakunle Soriyan)
Choices aren’t the same as wants. Wants are usually emotionally influenced without willful actions. Choices on the other hand are initiated principles conveyed by codes and laws.
You’ll usually need more than motivation to imbibe good patterns. You’ll need deliberate determination and a vibrant association yo instill a forward pattern.
If you’re not willing to bear pain or a level of discomfort, then formulating or implementing good patterns is almost impossible. There are people who once started initiating good patterns but stopped along the line simply because they did not first hardwire the pattern into their identity.
If you fail to first make the pattern your identity, you’ll never breakthrough your wrong patterns.
Identity runs almost everything. Patterns gravitate towards your perception of your identity. Therefore before you start forming a good pattern, you must connect with the values and rules of the pattern you wish to imbibe. Thinking won’t do much except you take on a new identity. Then your identity will influence your though process and pattern.
If you really want to change, go for identity. If not, you’re just wasting your time.
Identity begets association, pattern and character.
To be continued…
Harkheindzel Kenny Omiyale
Development and Empowerment Strategist