The seed of unforgiveness

The seed of unforgiveness


verb (forgives, forgiving; past forgave, past participle forgiven) 1. (transitive) To pardon, to waive any negative feeling or desire for punishment.

Only the brave know how to forgive…A coward never forgave; it is not in his nature. -Laurence Sterne

2. (intransitive) To accord forgiveness.

The real thing about forgiveness is that it is a dust out and burn operation.
There is no such thing as “forgive and forget” . The latter is a subset of the former.

Let’s say the truth. The whole idea of forgiving is pardoning. And what it means is that you take it as though it never happened. Give a clean slate, a fresh start, another chance. So let us stop the mundane mind of forgiving but not forgetting.

If you want to forgive, forgive and go on with your life. Stop fooling yourself by being religious. Am going to be quick with this post but I don’t want you to lose the crux and theme of this post. Let’s put aside our smeared idiosyncrasies and look at this with a fresh eye. Forget all you have learnt, all you think you know. It’s time to unlearn and relearn. This is what this generation needs. The generation of our parents have sown some evil seeds in us while growing. Some silly mindset that have crippled our mind to this level. But it is time to breakforth and breakthrough thereby breaking out for good. But we will do it one step at a time, one word at a time, one idea at a time. We cannot rush things at this stage. The quicker you try to loose the old knots, the worse you make it. So we gonna take it slow and easy.

Forgiveness is the topic for the day. We need to look at this again and see how well we have gone. I hear people who are proud of keeping malice for years… What’s the meaning of that? That’s so filthy! It’s just like keeping raw meet in your mouth for years and you are proud of it. It’s gonna kill you if you don’t throw it out.

Unforgiveness is a seed that needs to be destroyed. But it can grow so fast and take root if not well handled.

Just like the magic beans that grows instantly when it feels water, that’s how fast the seed of unforgiveness can take root in our heart.

Many years ago, a lady came to me for a deliverance session, after questioning her to find the root of her oppression, I realized it was “unforgiveness”. I led her to let go of all her hurt and pain (this took a while because it is not to be rushed), eventually, she was free. She didn’t need some authoritative prayers, all she needed to be free was forgiveness.

Unforgiveness is like taking a poison and expecting the other person to die. We all know that aiint gonna happen.

Learn to walk in love, it may not be easy initially, but in time you will see the worth of it. Besides a life lived in love is one that is so close to God… For God is love. (you all know am not talking about nothing but the agape love… Just so we are clear)


Quotes About Forgiveness

“ Always forgive your enemies;
nothing annoys them so much.
Oscar Wilde

“ The Paradoxical Commandments

People are illogical, unreasonable,
and self-centered.
Love them anyway.
If you do good, people will accuse
you of selfish ulterior motives.
Do good anyway.
If you are successful, you will win
false friends and true enemies.
Succeed anyway.
The good you do today will be
forgotten tomorrow.
Do good anyway.
Honesty and frankness make you
Be honest and frank anyway.
The biggest men and women with
the biggest ideas can be shot down
by the smallest men and women
with the smallest minds.
Think big anyway.
People favor underdogs but follow
only top dogs.
Fight for a few underdogs anyway.
What you spend years building may
be destroyed overnight.
Build anyway.
People really need help but may
attack you if you do help them.
Help people anyway.
Give the world the best you have
and you’ll get kicked in the teeth.
Give the world the best you have
Kent M. Keith

“ The weak can never forgive.
Forgiveness is the attribute of the
Mahatma Gandhi

“ To be a Christian means to forgive
the inexcusable because God has
forgiven the inexcusable in you.
C.S. Lewis

“ Dumbledore says people find it far
easier to forgive others for being
wrong than being right.
J.K. Rowling

“ Any fool knows men and women
think differently at times, but the
biggest difference is this. Men
forget, but never forgive; women
forgive, but never forget.
Robert Jordan

“ The truth is, unless you let go, unless
you forgive yourself, unless you
forgive the situation, unless you
realize that the situation is over,
you cannot move forward.
Steve Maraboli

“ To err is human, to forgive, divine.
Alexander Pope

“One of the keys to happiness is a bad
Rita Mae Brown

“ I could easily forgive his pride, if he
had not mortified mine.
Jane Austen

“ Forgiveness is not about forgetting.
It is about letting go of another
person’s throat……Forgiveness does
not create a relationship. Unless
people speak the truth about what
they have done and change their
mind and behavior, a relationship
of trust is not possible. When you
forgive someone you certainly
release them from judgment, but
without true change, no real
relationship can be
established………Forgiveness in no
way requires that you trust the one
you forgive. But should they finally
confess and repent, you will
discover a miracle in your own
heart that allows you to reach out
and begin to build between you a
bridge of
does not excuse anything………You
may have to declare your
forgiveness a hundred times the
first day and the second day, but the
third day will be less and each day
after, until one day you will realize
that you have forgiven completely.
And then one day you will pray for
his wholeness……
Wm. Paul Young

“ Forgiveness is the fragrance that the
violet sheds on the heel that has
crushed it.
Mark Twain

“ We are all mistaken sometimes;
sometimes we do wrong things,
things that have bad consequences.
But it does not mean we are evil, or
that we cannot be trusted ever
Alison Croggon

“ Forgive your enemies, but never
forget their names.
John F. Kennedy

“ People have to forgive. We don’t
have to like them, we don’t have to
be friends with them, we don’t have
to send them hearts in text messages,
but we have to forgive them, to
overlook, to forget. Because if we
don’t we are tying rocks to our feet,
too much for our wings to carry!
C. JoyBell C.

Have a great life. I pray this prayer for you from the depth of my heart.

A son with a message,
Harkheindzel Kenny O.


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