Christians and handling relationships.

I got this from a blog and I believe it will help. I will reference it in the comment box.

Remember that God’s Love is the ultimate.
Knowing the love God has for you means that you do
not have to seek fulfillment in how anyone makes you
feel (a weakness of human love): the most perfect
love comes from God, and it is always yours. He will
do much more to fill the love-space than a person
ever could. Approach your dating relationship knowing
that God likes you and loves you, and there is plenty
room for wonders of love, marriage, mature family
love, i.e.: constancy (not fickleness) thus enabling you
to build and love your own family, of course.
(Christians: Always remember He sent His son, Jesus ,
to die for your sins.) Make sure you are strong in your
loving relationship with God. This means knowing that
He is always there to help you along the way. Trust
Him. Make God the most important in your life. Make
Him the love of your life.
Know the ideal match for you. Date someone that
you would consider marrying. Choose a person that
has a similar desire for God, one that will build you up
in your faith. If you are already in a relationship,
positively encourage one another in pursuing God.
Help your boyfriend or girlfriend to keep God the
focus. Understand that Christians are not to be
“unequally yolked” that is, if they are not willing to
accept the faith, the relationship might have to be
Pray . Pray about your dating relationship. Give
everything over to God. Let God know that you are
asking His approval. Talk to God about the problems
that arise. Thank Him for the opportunity to be in a
relationship and the happy times you experience. You
can also pray with your boyfriend or girlfriend. It is a
good way to help each other out with whatever
stresses life brings. By praying together, you are
experiencing God together. Though, it could make the
focus more about you two building intimacy—still
there is a tendency to bring out one another’s faults in
prayer; therefore, avoid prodding, interrogating,
judging; instead, help each other in order to build
trust; love and forgive each other as the Lord’s Prayer
models for us.
Talk about God . Make an effort to bring God into
your conversations. Not only will it help in keeping
God on your minds, you will also find out about each
others beliefs. Talking about a spiritual subject changes
normal conversation into one of eternal significance.
Discussing God also allows you to build up each others
knowledge and confidence.
Read the Bible. Keeping God’s words in your heart
helps you to remember the love and promises He has
for you. Try reading the Bible together. It is fun,
spiritual and good for conversation. Different verses
will help you along the way in your relationship.
Get involved with Church . Make sure your boyfriend
or girlfriend and you are active in the body of Christ.
You will feel good about sharing God’s love. He calls
us to serve Him.
Be careful with physical affection . Hugs are great.
God created physical affection to be good. But be
careful in how much physical permission you give one
another. A relationship can easily turn sinful if physical
bonding occurs too quickly. Everyone is different. But
if you feel guilty at all for actions, it may be good
indication that you are going too far. Avoid physical
actions that might cause lustful thoughts (such as
sitting on lap, laying on each other or sensual kissing
and massages). Save sex for marriage. Talk about your
physical actions with each other, making sure you are
both comfortable and feeling great. Understand what
might be innocent to one or another might very well
be dangerous to you.
Show Christ’s love to each other. Make sacrifices for
each other. Watch a chick flick. Go to a basketball
game. Be willing to serve one another. Put one
another above yourselves. Find how to show love to
each other. Use the love God has shown you and bring
it to your boyfriend or girlfriend.
Bring out all of “The ‘Fruit’ of the Spirit”: notice it
is not fruits, we are not to pick and choose the ones
we prefer. This will work to relieve stress in
relationships in this World of troubles.
Cheerfully realize this is a package—not bits or
pieces: “Love, joy, peace, long-suffering
(patience), gentleness (kindness), goodness,
meekness (gentleness), faith (faithfulness)
and temperance (self-control)… Against
such things there is no law.”, Galatians
5:22-23 KJV (parentheses NIV). [1] Read those
again and again…
Have Fun and Praise and Glorify God . Smile and
know that God is with you. Enjoy the life that God has
given the both of you. Whenever you get the chance,
praise God for whatever He has poured into your life.
Trust and know that God has your back. He wants
what is best for the both of you.
Cherish your own personal God time. Make sure
you spend time alone with God. You need moments of
reading the Bible, journaling or praying just between
you and God. Since God is your ultimate love, it is
good to have that time alone with Him.
Keep in mind the reality that God is real . While
having a special someone can bring great happiness in
this world, realizing the eternally wonderful nature of
God’s love is something you do not want to miss. God
is real. His love is real. God is love. Realize that God is
working in your life right now. His forgiveness is real
and His promises are real. Give the love God has
given you to your boyfriend or girlfriend. God’s love is
perfect. Let Christ’s love reign in your dating
relationship. Let the love you have for each other be a
banner to the world displaying God’s goodness.
Remember though, “You are not your own, you were
bought at a price” – therefore God must reign in your
relationships. We are called to be holy, because He is
holy. We might very well have to “hate [our] father
and mother, [our] wife and children, [our] brothers
and sisters–yes, even [our] own life–“; our dating
relationships are no exception. Remember, as C.S.
Lewis has said, that love that becomes a god, becomes
a demon. Submit all your love, therefore, to the one
that is Love, and He, like a gardener, shall prune our
loves which are so fickle and temporary by nature,
into beautiful gardens which we may share with all our
relationships including our dating relationships.


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